when a guy....

when a guy says:

If a guy told you 'it is not your fault,it is my problem...I'm just not a good one' when he is asking for a break up, he doesn't mean it that way....

what he was trying to say is....

'you are not good enough for me and I definitely want to dump you now..but I am being constantly loaded with guilt,is there anything I can do to make you feel better?'

and when he said that,be prepared,he is really leaving you...or...very likely to leave you...

another no-no word to be heard from a guy is ..... 'I'm TIRED of these arguments...'

the word 'tired' itself can mean a lot..but for sure,he is very likely to mean this:

'I am mentally exhausted to continue to fight with you over certain matters and I think you should stop it or I need to take a break from our relationship to review if it is worthy for us to be together/if there is any more future lay ahead of us'

when a guy does:

• if a guy likes you so so only,he will only watch you from far but not telling you.

• if a guy likes you enough, he will gather up all the courage to confess and perhaps asking you to be his significant someone.

• if you rejected him and he sort of starts to avoid you and suddenly disappear from your world, actually he doesn't love you but himself. why? It's simple,because he doesn't wanna waste anymore time on you once he knew he stands no chance to get your nodding and he chose to free himself from the so-called heartbreaking feeling he feels by not seeing you anymore : out of sight,out of mind.

• if you rejected him and he chose to be your friend (better friend than nothing), how about reconsider such a guy? despite the awkwardness and the pain he feels when he claims to love you so much and yet,you are not with him,he still chose to remain around you as your friend,it means he cares for you more than himself and cannot afford to lose you,even if you don't want to be with him,treasure such a friend =)

cherish a person when he/she is there for you, no matter how busy you are, because when one's heart has given up, turned cold and walked away, it is already too late for anything to be done...as things will not be the same anymore...

as I am typing this blog post,I am actually listening to Taylor Swift's Back to December..beautiful song telling how much she regretted for taking him for granted...

I'm so glad you made time to see me.
How's life? Tell me how's your family.
I haven't seen them in a while.
You've been good, busier than ever,
We small talk, work and the weather,
Your guard is up and I know why.
Because the last time you saw me
Is still burned in the back of your mind.
You gave me roses and I left them there to die.

So this is me swallowing my pride,
Standing in front of you saying, "I'm sorry for that night,"
And I go back to December all the time.
It turns out freedom ain't nothing but missing you.
Wishing I'd realized what I had when you were mine.
I'd go back to December, turn around and make it all right.
I go back to December all the time.

Valentine is around the corner now....wishing whoever who read this post to have a really meaningful moment on February the 14th

ciao,
shu ying