talking to the moon

everyone was wrong.i was wrong.he is still in love with me.

no.he wants to stop it.because we are too far apart.

yes,i am still in love with him too.

we promised not to talk to each other.promised to move on without each other in our life.

all i can do now is listening to Bruno Mars's talking to the moon and trying to sing along the chorus

Talking to the Moon
Trying to get to You
In hopes you're on
the other side
Talking to me too
Or am I a fool
who sits alone
Talking to the moon

my heart feels kind of sour.

and i posted on my Facebook wall:

我始終帶著你愛的微笑
一路上尋找我遺失的美好
不小心當淚滑嘴角
就用你握過的手抹掉

he posted on his Facebook wall:

只希望你微笑

bitter smile.right person.wrong timing.i miss you.

世间万千的变幻
爱把有情的人分两端
心若知道灵犀的方向
哪怕不能够朝夕相伴
城里的月光把梦照亮
请温暖他心房

mirror reflection

have you ever noticed that certain couples are actually quite alike in their looks and behaviour?

this is often what people call 'husband and wife look', direct translation from chinese words '夫妻相'.

after talking to my another friend who is also study psychology or maybe I think too much,I came to realize that there are two reasons behind it...

first possible reason is that people tends to find their partner who is resembling themselves in some kind of ways.
what do I meant by that? okay,let's assume that most of us grow up seeing ourselves quite often in the mirror
and thus,we are sort of fond of our own look subconsciously without us even knowing it.
so,when we meet someone who kinda looks or behaves like us or likes the things we like, we feel the sense of belongingness (it is good to have companionship) and we tend to fall for him/her.
all I shall say,the similiarity draws us together.

However,in some cases which holds the second possible reason, some couples who look or talk alike, were not quite identical in the beginning but they grow together in the relationship and as time passes, they become quite alike?

hmph, confused?

okay, see it this way, we humans grow up by observing and learning from others.
it is as simple as how we learn to walk or talk.
We listen, observe, pick up the ideas and we practice that behaviour repeatedly until we can do it properly.
So, what is has to do with couple looking alike??
Couple tends to pick up each other little habits bit by bit over the time (if you ever noticed), suggesting the 'mirror reflection' theory. Not limiting to just habits, sometimes it could even be their look! For example, the way they smile? or that way their eyes look at people? their body language when they are interacting with others?

how about couples who do not seem similar at all? well, maybe their relationship is not long enough to see the changes in them? or maybe they are the exception, theories may not hold true for all situations... nyah nyah~

till then,take care to those who read my blog

specially thanks to bean,who allowed me to use her picture here~ hahaha

love,

shuying ♥

five stages of grievance

this is one of my friend's favourite psychology theory to date and he shared it with me months ago, I feel it is indeed very true.

my friend who as a psychology minor told me that this theory was proposed for death related issue which means someone dear to you has passed away recently. However, later it was found to be pretty much applicable to situations where you part from someone or something that you have attachment to,usually something that means a lot to you and often associated with any kind of loses that is dear to you.

five stages of grievance- denial,anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.

Denial is the first stage. In this stage,you will get a huge shock as if being struck by lighting and will not believe what has just happened or had happened. Subconsciously, your mind will work to undo what has been the reality presented in front of your eyes. For example, you might keep persuading yourself that it is not true, there is no way it gonna be the truth,etc. It must be a dream, or a nightmare most likely.

When you enter the second stage, Anger is what you will feel. You are just mad. You are angry that God took something deary to you away, angry at yourself for letting it happened this way, angry at anything and anyone that reminds you of that incident.

Third stage, bargaining. Start to get desperate,desperately trying all kinds of ways to fix it, making promises about what you will do to get it fixed. You gonna feel like if everything will go back to how it used to be, you will not ask for anything anymore. You may try very hard, and as you keep trying, the only thing you realized is that, the more you do, the worse it becomes. Final realization, nothing could be fixed. It's the end.

Depression. You are beginning to see it as a reality that could not be changed. Starting to feel that this life has no meaning, the world means nothing to you anymore. You may have insomnia or lose your appetite. The world looks so grey.

As time passes, you came to realize, everything that has happened is not your fault and there is nothing you can do about it now, no matter how hard you tried or how sad you might be. However, you also may start to feel that you life does not end here and you can still go chasing after other things that you dream of in life. One day you woke up finding that, hey, I am feeling slightly happy today. This signifies that you have entered the final stage, Acceptance. Slowly, you will be back like how you used to be, without being bothered much by that past incident, slowly finds that life has becomes meaningful once again, found a new path and a new direction to continue the journey of your life.

credits to A, my friend.

anyway, cheers! and it is known as 'prost' in German ^^

something to laugh about.... ^^

1) So many people die, never see you die.
甘多人死，唔见你死。
2) You teach me how to come out and walk in the future?
你教我以后点出嚟行?
3) If you have enough ginger, put your horse to me.
如果你够姜既话就放马过嚟。
4) "I saw a pork chop"
我见到件猪扒啊。
5) Are you road?
你系咪路啊？
6) What the water are you?
你系乜水啊？
7) Do you big me?
你大我啊？
8) Zebra chops people.
班马劈友。
9) The king of the cutting girl.
界女王。
10) Cut my head and let you sit on it as a chair.
批我个头俾你当凳坐。
11) Do you think me didn't arrive?
你当我无到？
12) You have seed, I will give you some colour to see, brothers, together up.
你有种，我会俾D颜色你睇，兄弟，同我一齐上！
13) Today I was very black son.
今日我好黑仔。
14) I am wearing grass.
我着紧草。
15) You have not enough class to talk mathematics with me!
你未够班同我讲数！
16) Two beat six.
二打六
17) Two five son.
二五仔
18) Piano piano green.　　　　　　　　　　
琴琴青
19) I give you some colour to see see. 　　　　
我俾D顏色你睇睇！
20) Stupid stupid want to move .　　　　　
蠢蠢欲動 。
21) People mountain people sea .　　　　
人山人海 。
22) How senior are you? 　　　　　　　　
你算老幾?
23) What the ghost are you talk? 　　　
你講乜鬼?
24) I fear that you have teeth.　　　　　　　　　
我驚你有牙！
25) Heart flower angry open. 　　　　　
心花怒放。
26) Fish skin
鱼皮 。
27) Monster of blowing water.
吹水怪。
18) Face green green
面青青。
29) You see road carefully
你小心睇路
30) You go to street carefully
你出街小心D。
31) Do the world
做世界 。
32) Big tea rice
大茶饭 。
33) American chinese not enough.
美中不足。
34) King eight egg.
王八蛋
35) High hand.
高手
36) Old dot.
老点
37) One old water
一旧水
38) I know your mouse.
我识你老鼠！
39) Measure water/Pound water.
磅水
40) A dragon service.
一条龙服务
41) Pump water.
抽水
42) I blow chicken to beat your group of the guys.
我吹鸡打你班友。
43) You jump building.
你跳楼啦。
44) You come back home and eat banana
你返屋企食蕉啦
45) I give you a hair.
我俾条毛你ar!
46) Collect skin
收皮
47) Collect father
收爹
48) You give me collect father.
你同我收爹！
49) Laugh die me.
笑死我。
50) You give me stop.
你同我企系度。
51) Eight woman
八婆
52) Eight woman,you are good!
八婆，你好o野!
53) What the spring do you do?
你搞乜春啊?
54) A dog of eating dung
食屎狗

我在美国学到的事，原来多的是我不知道的事

我在美国学到的事。。。

(1) 原来美国的厕所都有一个1cm 到 2cm 门缝，外面的人要看里面的你，真的看得到
(2) 原来美国人不用洗碗，他们有机器帮忙
(3) 原来在美国不会煮饭不用紧，会用微波炉就好了
(4) 原来美国人真的太友善了，但要记得，这并不是真正的友谊
(5) 原来在美国最辛苦的，是你生病了，医生不会医~
(6) 原来在美国读大学，好像在读小学，老师们都会写在黑板上，还要你用小簿子写功课
(7) 原来在美国红灯时可以转右，青灯时不一定可以转左。
(8)原来在美国上下巴士时要跟司机讲谢谢
(9)原来在美国没穿衣在街上跑是正常的
(10)原来在美国皮肤越黑就是越漂亮
(11)原来我们的study week，在美国是个death week
(12) 原来我们在final exam 前是拼命的读书，美国人在final exam前是拼命的party
(13) 原来在美国5cents 比10cents还要大
(14) 原来在美国买名牌是挺便宜的
(15) 原来美国人在每个周末都会party
(16) 原来在美国，过马路不可以看右，因为车从左边来


最后，我在打这个post的时后，也学会了原来我打中文是那么慢的～

笑一笑吧~ ^-^　

the earthquake theory

i wrote a theory for being in love,
http://ilovepurpleberries.blogspot.com/2009/12/gross-toilet-theory.html
another theory of breaking up
http://ilovepurpleberries.blogspot.com/2011/02/acne-breakouts-relationship-breakups.html
and now what?
final theory of post-break up life
♥
and this time...it feels like the post-earthquake life
it feels like you are being stuck in between two huge rocks right after the happening of earthquake
half of your body and limbs are under these rocks
extreme pain
but you simply stuck there,not being able to move
some people will ask you to let go and move on,
but you can't,
there is no way you are willing to take a knife or a sharp-edged rock to cut your own bones and flesh that are stuck under the rocks,
some people tell you that you will have a better life after you let go,
yeah,how will you know if i still survive after cutting half of my body and limbs apart?
even if i survived, things and life will not be the same again,
i will lost parts of me, handicapped.
it requires tremendous bravery to do so,by the way
and most importantly,the love for the limbs.

however, you can still choose to continue to be under the rocks.
extreme pain,
but
you are unwilling to detach from the other half of yours
what to do?
although these parts of you might be dead already by now
(due to the long-term lack of blood circulation and terrible injuries)
extreme pain, and fortunately, you are tough enough to take it.
at first you will scream in pain and asking for help,
no one can help you,
you are the only one who is stuck
and the people around you could not help to remove the rocks away,
even if they wanted to
all they can do is to just watch you in pain,
some couldn't watch it anymore and choose to turn away
some are still watching, but no one can completely understand the bearer's pain
even the bearer himself/herself

time flies,
you stop screaming because people starts to find it annoying and depressing
and you are getting so numb and tired.
sometimes, you will feel alright as you starting to get used to it
sometimes,you even forgotten the rocks are still there
sometimes,you remember that you are still retaining the paralyzed limps
sometimes, you learn to enjoy the pain
and lastly,all the time,you wish that all has happened is just another nightmare.

♥ disappointment equals to expectation divided by reality ♥

-shuyingsayscheers-

♥ DIY homemake green tea mask, toner and facial scrub ♥

yes, they are easy to make, sharing most of the ingredients.safe to try and nice to use and mainly for acne/blemish skin.

ingredients that are needed: apple cider vinegar, green tea (can be obtained from real green tea leaves or green tea packet but not the ready-to-drink canned green tea), white sugar/salt, honey, olive oil, two empty glass bottles

making the green tea mask

1. add 1 teaspoon of apple cider vinegar into the bowl
2. add 2 teaspoons of green tea
(you can use the green tea packet to prepare the green tea, must sure it is lukewarm)
3. add 3 teaspoons of white sugar
4. stir the mixture to blend it completely
5. add 1 teaspoon of honey
6. add 2 more teaspoons of white sugar.
7. stir the mixture carefully again and it is ready to be use (leave it for about 10 minutes on the face and wash it off with cold water)

-you can keep up to 2 weeks within the glass bottle in the fridge
(use sugar if you have a dry skin, but replace it with salt if you have oily skin)

making the green tea toner

1. prepare an empty glass bottle
2. add in apple cider vinegar of about 1/3 of the bottle
(use lesser portion if you have sensitive skin)
3. add in green tea (prepared earlier for the mask) into the bottle for the remaining 2/3
4. add in 1 teaspoon of olive oil (you can substitute it with tea tree oil)
5. shake the mixture and it is ready to be use

-you can keep up to 2 weeks in the fridge
-use it at night as it smells bad, however I find it smells like SK-II (I used to call that smell as horse urine)

making the green tea facial scrub

1. add in 3 teaspoons of white sugar
2. add in 1 teaspoon of green tea
3. add in another ingredient of your choice (could be honey, Johnson's baby oil, olive oil,etc)
4. stir the mixture and leave it for about 2 minutes and it is ready to be use

- it has about 1 week of shelf life but personally, I would recommend use it once.

tried it,like it and love it ♥

cheers!