this is one of my friend's favourite psychology theory to date and he shared it with me months ago, I feel it is indeed very true.
my friend who as a psychology minor told me that this theory was proposed for death related issue which means someone dear to you has passed away recently. However, later it was found to be pretty much applicable to situations where you part from someone or something that you have attachment to,usually something that means a lot to you and often associated with any kind of loses that is dear to you.
five stages of grievance- denial,anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.
Denial is the first stage. In this stage,you will get a huge shock as if being struck by lighting and will not believe what has just happened or had happened. Subconsciously, your mind will work to undo what has been the reality presented in front of your eyes. For example, you might keep persuading yourself that it is not true, there is no way it gonna be the truth,etc. It must be a dream, or a nightmare most likely.
When you enter the second stage, Anger is what you will feel. You are just mad. You are angry that God took something deary to you away, angry at yourself for letting it happened this way, angry at anything and anyone that reminds you of that incident.
Third stage, bargaining. Start to get desperate,desperately trying all kinds of ways to fix it, making promises about what you will do to get it fixed. You gonna feel like if everything will go back to how it used to be, you will not ask for anything anymore. You may try very hard, and as you keep trying, the only thing you realized is that, the more you do, the worse it becomes. Final realization, nothing could be fixed. It's the end.
Depression. You are beginning to see it as a reality that could not be changed. Starting to feel that this life has no meaning, the world means nothing to you anymore. You may have insomnia or lose your appetite. The world looks so grey.
As time passes, you came to realize, everything that has happened is not your fault and there is nothing you can do about it now, no matter how hard you tried or how sad you might be. However, you also may start to feel that you life does not end here and you can still go chasing after other things that you dream of in life. One day you woke up finding that, hey, I am feeling slightly happy today. This signifies that you have entered the final stage, Acceptance. Slowly, you will be back like how you used to be, without being bothered much by that past incident, slowly finds that life has becomes meaningful once again, found a new path and a new direction to continue the journey of your life.
credits to A, my friend.
anyway, cheers! and it is known as 'prost' in German ^^
Monday, June 27, 2011
Sunday, May 22, 2011
something to laugh about.... ^^
1) So many people die, never see you die.
甘多人死，唔见你死。
2) You teach me how to come out and walk in the future?
你教我以后点出嚟行?
3) If you have enough ginger, put your horse to me.
如果你够姜既话就放马过嚟。
4) "I saw a pork chop"
我见到件猪扒啊。
5) Are you road?
你系咪路啊？
6) What the water are you?
你系乜水啊？
7) Do you big me?
你大我啊？
8) Zebra chops people.
班马劈友。
9) The king of the cutting girl.
界女王。
10) Cut my head and let you sit on it as a chair.
批我个头俾你当凳坐。
11) Do you think me didn't arrive?
你当我无到？
12) You have seed, I will give you some colour to see, brothers, together up.
你有种，我会俾D颜色你睇，兄弟，同我一齐上！
13) Today I was very black son.
今日我好黑仔。
14) I am wearing grass.
我着紧草。
15) You have not enough class to talk mathematics with me!
你未够班同我讲数！
16) Two beat six.
二打六
17) Two five son.
二五仔
18) Piano piano green.
琴琴青
19) I give you some colour to see see.
我俾D顏色你睇睇！
20) Stupid stupid want to move .
蠢蠢欲動 。
21) People mountain people sea .
人山人海 。
22) How senior are you?
你算老幾?
23) What the ghost are you talk?
你講乜鬼?
24) I fear that you have teeth.
我驚你有牙！
25) Heart flower angry open.
心花怒放。
26) Fish skin
鱼皮 。
27) Monster of blowing water.
吹水怪。
18) Face green green
面青青。
29) You see road carefully
你小心睇路
30) You go to street carefully
你出街小心D。
31) Do the world
做世界 。
32) Big tea rice
大茶饭 。
33) American chinese not enough.
美中不足。
34) King eight egg.
王八蛋
35) High hand.
高手
36) Old dot.
老点
37) One old water
一旧水
38) I know your mouse.
我识你老鼠！
39) Measure water/Pound water.
磅水
40) A dragon service.
一条龙服务
41) Pump water.
抽水
42) I blow chicken to beat your group of the guys.
我吹鸡打你班友。
43) You jump building.
你跳楼啦。
44) You come back home and eat banana
你返屋企食蕉啦
45) I give you a hair.
我俾条毛你ar!
46) Collect skin
收皮
47) Collect father
收爹
48) You give me collect father.
你同我收爹！
49) Laugh die me.
笑死我。
50) You give me stop.
你同我企系度。
51) Eight woman
八婆
52) Eight woman,you are good!
八婆，你好o野!
53) What the spring do you do?
你搞乜春啊?
54) A dog of eating dung
食屎狗
Sunday, April 24, 2011
我在美国学到的事，原来多的是我不知道的事
我在美国学到的事。。。
(1) 原来美国的厕所都有一个1cm 到 2cm 门缝，外面的人要看里面的你，真的看得到
(2) 原来美国人不用洗碗，他们有机器帮忙
(3) 原来在美国不会煮饭不用紧，会用微波炉就好了
(4) 原来美国人真的太友善了，但要记得，这并不是真正的友谊
(5) 原来在美国最辛苦的，是你生病了，医生不会医~
(6) 原来在美国读大学，好像在读小学，老师们都会写在黑板上，还要你用小簿子写功课
(7) 原来在美国红灯时可以转右，青灯时不一定可以转左。
(8)原来在美国上下巴士时要跟司机讲谢谢
(9)原来在美国没穿衣在街上跑是正常的
(10)原来在美国皮肤越黑就是越漂亮
(11)原来我们的study week，在美国是个death week
(12) 原来我们在final exam 前是拼命的读书，美国人在final exam前是拼命的party
(13) 原来在美国5cents 比10cents还要大
(14) 原来在美国买名牌是挺便宜的
(15) 原来美国人在每个周末都会party
(16) 原来在美国，过马路不可以看右，因为车从左边来
最后，我在打这个post的时后，也学会了原来我打中文是那么慢的～
笑一笑吧~ ^-^
(1) 原来美国的厕所都有一个1cm 到 2cm 门缝，外面的人要看里面的你，真的看得到
(2) 原来美国人不用洗碗，他们有机器帮忙
(3) 原来在美国不会煮饭不用紧，会用微波炉就好了
(4) 原来美国人真的太友善了，但要记得，这并不是真正的友谊
(5) 原来在美国最辛苦的，是你生病了，医生不会医~
(6) 原来在美国读大学，好像在读小学，老师们都会写在黑板上，还要你用小簿子写功课
(7) 原来在美国红灯时可以转右，青灯时不一定可以转左。
(8)原来在美国上下巴士时要跟司机讲谢谢
(9)原来在美国没穿衣在街上跑是正常的
(10)原来在美国皮肤越黑就是越漂亮
(11)原来我们的study week，在美国是个death week
(12) 原来我们在final exam 前是拼命的读书，美国人在final exam前是拼命的party
(13) 原来在美国5cents 比10cents还要大
(14) 原来在美国买名牌是挺便宜的
(15) 原来美国人在每个周末都会party
(16) 原来在美国，过马路不可以看右，因为车从左边来
最后，我在打这个post的时后，也学会了原来我打中文是那么慢的～
笑一笑吧~ ^-^
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
the earthquake theory
i wrote a theory for being in love,
http://ilovepurpleberries.blogspot.com/2009/12/gross-toilet-theory.html
another theory of breaking up
http://ilovepurpleberries.blogspot.com/2011/02/acne-breakouts-relationship-breakups.html
and now what?
final theory of post-break up life
and this time...it feels like the post-earthquake life
it feels like you are being stuck in between two huge rocks right after the happening of earthquake
half of your body and limbs are under these rocks
extreme pain
but you simply stuck there,not being able to move
some people will ask you to let go and move on,
but you can't,
there is no way you are willing to take a knife or a sharp-edged rock to cut your own bones and flesh that are stuck under the rocks,
some people tell you that you will have a better life after you let go,
yeah,how will you know if i still survive after cutting half of my body and limbs apart?
even if i survived, things and life will not be the same again,
i will lost parts of me, handicapped.
it requires tremendous bravery to do so,by the way
and most importantly,the love for the limbs.
however, you can still choose to continue to be under the rocks.
extreme pain,
but
you are unwilling to detach from the other half of yours
what to do?
although these parts of you might be dead already by now
(due to the long-term lack of blood circulation and terrible injuries)
extreme pain, and fortunately, you are tough enough to take it.
at first you will scream in pain and asking for help,
no one can help you,
you are the only one who is stuck
and the people around you could not help to remove the rocks away,
even if they wanted to
all they can do is to just watch you in pain,
some couldn't watch it anymore and choose to turn away
some are still watching, but no one can completely understand the bearer's pain
even the bearer himself/herself
time flies,
you stop screaming because people starts to find it annoying and depressing
and you are getting so numb and tired.
sometimes, you will feel alright as you starting to get used to it
sometimes,you even forgotten the rocks are still there
sometimes,you remember that you are still retaining the paralyzed limps
sometimes, you learn to enjoy the pain
and lastly,all the time,you wish that all has happened is just another nightmare.
disappointment equals to expectation divided by reality
http://ilovepurpleberries.blogspot.com/2009/12/gross-toilet-theory.html
another theory of breaking up
http://ilovepurpleberries.blogspot.com/2011/02/acne-breakouts-relationship-breakups.html
and now what?
final theory of post-break up life
and this time...it feels like the post-earthquake life
it feels like you are being stuck in between two huge rocks right after the happening of earthquake
half of your body and limbs are under these rocks
extreme pain
but you simply stuck there,not being able to move
some people will ask you to let go and move on,
but you can't,
there is no way you are willing to take a knife or a sharp-edged rock to cut your own bones and flesh that are stuck under the rocks,
some people tell you that you will have a better life after you let go,
yeah,how will you know if i still survive after cutting half of my body and limbs apart?
even if i survived, things and life will not be the same again,
i will lost parts of me, handicapped.
it requires tremendous bravery to do so,by the way
and most importantly,the love for the limbs.
however, you can still choose to continue to be under the rocks.
extreme pain,
but
you are unwilling to detach from the other half of yours
what to do?
although these parts of you might be dead already by now
(due to the long-term lack of blood circulation and terrible injuries)
extreme pain, and fortunately, you are tough enough to take it.
at first you will scream in pain and asking for help,
no one can help you,
you are the only one who is stuck
and the people around you could not help to remove the rocks away,
even if they wanted to
all they can do is to just watch you in pain,
some couldn't watch it anymore and choose to turn away
some are still watching, but no one can completely understand the bearer's pain
even the bearer himself/herself
time flies,
you stop screaming because people starts to find it annoying and depressing
and you are getting so numb and tired.
sometimes, you will feel alright as you starting to get used to it
sometimes,you even forgotten the rocks are still there
sometimes,you remember that you are still retaining the paralyzed limps
sometimes, you learn to enjoy the pain
and lastly,all the time,you wish that all has happened is just another nightmare.
disappointment equals to expectation divided by reality
Saturday, February 26, 2011
♥ DIY homemake green tea mask, toner and facial scrub ♥
yes, they are easy to make, sharing most of the ingredients.safe to try and nice to use and mainly for acne/blemish skin.
ingredients that are needed: apple cider vinegar, green tea (can be obtained from real green tea leaves or green tea packet but not the ready-to-drink canned green tea), white sugar/salt, honey, olive oil, two empty glass bottles
making the green tea mask
1. add 1 teaspoon of apple cider vinegar into the bowl
2. add 2 teaspoons of green tea
(you can use the green tea packet to prepare the green tea, must sure it is lukewarm)
3. add 3 teaspoons of white sugar
4. stir the mixture to blend it completely
5. add 1 teaspoon of honey
6. add 2 more teaspoons of white sugar.
7. stir the mixture carefully again and it is ready to be use (leave it for about 10 minutes on the face and wash it off with cold water)
-you can keep up to 2 weeks within the glass bottle in the fridge
(use sugar if you have a dry skin, but replace it with salt if you have oily skin)
making the green tea toner
1. prepare an empty glass bottle
2. add in apple cider vinegar of about 1/3 of the bottle
(use lesser portion if you have sensitive skin)
3. add in green tea (prepared earlier for the mask) into the bottle for the remaining 2/3
4. add in 1 teaspoon of olive oil (you can substitute it with tea tree oil)
5. shake the mixture and it is ready to be use
-you can keep up to 2 weeks in the fridge
-use it at night as it smells bad, however I find it smells like SK-II (I used to call that smell as horse urine)
making the green tea facial scrub
1. add in 3 teaspoons of white sugar
2. add in 1 teaspoon of green tea
3. add in another ingredient of your choice (could be honey, Johnson's baby oil, olive oil,etc)
4. stir the mixture and leave it for about 2 minutes and it is ready to be use
- it has about 1 week of shelf life but personally, I would recommend use it once.
tried it,like it and love it ♥
cheers!
ingredients that are needed: apple cider vinegar, green tea (can be obtained from real green tea leaves or green tea packet but not the ready-to-drink canned green tea), white sugar/salt, honey, olive oil, two empty glass bottles
making the green tea mask
1. add 1 teaspoon of apple cider vinegar into the bowl
2. add 2 teaspoons of green tea
(you can use the green tea packet to prepare the green tea, must sure it is lukewarm)
3. add 3 teaspoons of white sugar
4. stir the mixture to blend it completely
5. add 1 teaspoon of honey
6. add 2 more teaspoons of white sugar.
7. stir the mixture carefully again and it is ready to be use (leave it for about 10 minutes on the face and wash it off with cold water)
-you can keep up to 2 weeks within the glass bottle in the fridge
(use sugar if you have a dry skin, but replace it with salt if you have oily skin)
making the green tea toner
1. prepare an empty glass bottle
2. add in apple cider vinegar of about 1/3 of the bottle
(use lesser portion if you have sensitive skin)
3. add in green tea (prepared earlier for the mask) into the bottle for the remaining 2/3
4. add in 1 teaspoon of olive oil (you can substitute it with tea tree oil)
5. shake the mixture and it is ready to be use
-you can keep up to 2 weeks in the fridge
-use it at night as it smells bad, however I find it smells like SK-II (I used to call that smell as horse urine)
making the green tea facial scrub
1. add in 3 teaspoons of white sugar
2. add in 1 teaspoon of green tea
3. add in another ingredient of your choice (could be honey, Johnson's baby oil, olive oil,etc)
4. stir the mixture and leave it for about 2 minutes and it is ready to be use
- it has about 1 week of shelf life but personally, I would recommend use it once.
tried it,like it and love it ♥
cheers!
Thursday, February 24, 2011
when you are single for too long....
一个人单身久了
when you are single for too long
会懒得恋爱
you will feel 'lazy' to be in a relationship again
一个人单身久了
when you are single for too long
朋友会越重要
friends are becoming more and more important
一个人单身久了
when you are single for too long
会越来越喜欢听歌
listening to songs will become a major hobby to you
一个人单身久了
when you are single for too long
电话会常常忘记带
you will often forget to bring your cellphone along with you
一个人单身久了
when you are single for too long
就会养成一个怪癖
it will develop into a weird habit
一个人单身久了
when you are single for too long
对爱情会越来越挑剔
you will become more picky/choosy when it comes to love
一个人单身久了
when you are single for too long
除了寂寞点外
besides feeling lonely sometimes
还是蛮开心的
actually,it is kinda happy too
一个人单身久了
when you are single for too long
会慢慢变得成熟起来
you will slowly start to get mature
一个人单身久了
when you are single for too long
会比以前更爱父母
you will love your parents even more that last time
更重视亲情
and cherish your relationship with your family members
一个人单身久了
when you are single for too long
对所有的节日大多没什么期待
you don't really bother much about those special days of the year
一个人单身久了
when you are single for too long
看到别人一对对的很甜蜜
seeing others who are in a sweet relationship with their lover
心里多少还是会有些介意
somehow,your heart feels disturbed
一个人单身久了
when you are single for too long
会喜欢买很多鞋子
you will start to loving buying more shoes
带自己去很多很远的地方
so that they can bring you to faraway places
一个人单身久了
when you are single for too long
会觉得无拘无束自由自在
you will have so much freedom
一个人单身久了
when you are single for too long
爱情会变得越来越不重要
love is becoming less important
取而代之的是钱和事业
and being replaced by money and career
一个人单身久了
when you are single for too long
会越来越理性
you will become more rational
越来越现实
and down-to-earth
一个人单身久了
when you are single for too long
是很幸福的时光
it is actually a blissful moment
虽然有一点点无聊和寂寞
although you will face some emptiness and loneliness
但是游走在自己的街道上
but walking on your own street
什么都可以无所谓
everything is no longer a matter to you
没有任何束缚
and there is nothing to control you
即使很多人都在疑惑
often many people will question
"你为什么没有告别一个人的时光?"
'why don't you kiss the single life goodbye?'
因为……
because.......
一个人单身久了
when you are single for too long
会上瘾的
you will get addicted
*chinese version is not written by me*
cheers to those who are still single!
Sunday, February 20, 2011
the acne breakouts @ relationship breakups theory
breaking up with your partner is almost similar to having a sudden acne attack
the night before, you wouldn't sense any changes on your face, or any changes in your relationship
guess what?
the next day,early in the morning after u woke up,look into the mirror and GASPED! what the hell! acne!!??
the same goes to the relationship. the night before he/she said 'i love u so much' and the next day 'i don't love you anymore'...pathetic? some people told me,this is called LIFE. what a life.
so what's next? the pimple on your face is so painful. the itchy fingers of yours, wanting to squeeze it all the time,but you can't. simply because it is so painful and your subconscious mind knows, the more u squeeze,the more painful it is and it might spread out to the other parts after it breaks.
so what's next? having the thought of the reality that he/she is leaving your world, the helpless mind of yours wanting him/her back so badly. but i heard some people said before too, the more you wanna to patch back,the more he/she wanna leave you. deep in you,you know,your act will drives him/her further n further away and end up having no contacts.
so,you are stuck in this helpless state.the acne on your face.the broken relationship you have.you cannot do a single thing to help it or prevent it from happening. you are just stuck.
everyone said time will wash everything away.time will heal the pain. both the breakouts n the breakups.
ya,i know too.time.time is all you need. after some time,the acne pain will recover and your broken heart will recover too.
leaving scars behind. what is the difference? huge difference. the scar on the face is not as deadly as the scar in the heart. sometimes the scars fade. sometimes the scars retain,but for most people,the scars retained to remind you,it is there...it still exists.
alright,scars really a living proof that a wound has recovered? not really, i should say.it might look fine on the surface, but underneath the scars, well, you might find it rotten flesh.
this is another comparison of love with something else.i hope i don't compare love with something gross,again,in the future.
cheers!
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